Letters to My Teenage Sister
This is a series on Procinctu called, “Letters to My Teenage Sister.”
If you have happened to stumble upon these Letters to MY Teenage Sister, the intention is that YOU share them with YOUR teenage sister, and also daughter, niece, grand-daughter, cousin….you get the picture. Though really, the lessons from these letters can apply to ladies of all ages, and even guys if they take a different viewpoint.
I only write Letters to my TEENAGE Sister because she is in her formative years and the most likely to listen. Let’s face it girls, you are pretty stubborn. You think you know what’s best for you and you want to learn your lessons on your own. I get it, believe me I get it. But also believe me when I say, others felt the same as you, and are regretting the position they now find themselves.
An added preface: One of my long term goals is to have some kind of facility or network of facilities that focus on the development of youth, mainly teaching boys to be men. The modern male is quite pathetic in my opinion. It seems a majority of them are devoid of values, culture, morals, etc. And because of this inferior male pool, it seems too many ladies need to settle for mistreatment, just to avoid ‘loneliness.’
While men deserve a huge amount of blame, women are also at fault. It is the ladies that lack the self-respect and confidence to earn a suitable man. Note the use of the word, ‘earn.’ So many men get away with being assholes because so many women allow it by not valuing themselves enough. Well I am here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. You are NOT predestined to be a punching bag (literally nor figuratively).
OK, so in reality, I currently don’t even have a teenage sister. I used to have teenage sisters, but they have since grown, and now harbor some of that stubbornness mentioned above. What do I know, right? So a lot of what will be covered in the Letters to My Teenage Sister, are things I picked up from having sisters of all ages.
These include: Things I should have said, Things I didn’t say forcefully enough, or Things I said ad nauseam..…in vain.
I guess this ‘fathering’ aspect of being a brother, escalated when my father was out of our house when I was 13 years old. I became a ‘man of the house’ just as I myself was a teenager.
Well, since then , my father has fathered a child, a girl, who is now around 5. I just met her for the first time a few weeks ago (December 2013). I don’t know what kind of relationship we will have, but perhaps she will read these letters when she is a teenager.
Anyway, share these Letters to My Teenage Sister with the precious girls in your life. They just might listen if the message comes from someone else, ha.
Remember that smart people learn from their mistakes, but wise people learn from the mistakes of others.
May all our sisters be wise.